“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on”

-Havelock Ellis

What is a Grief & Mourning Guide

A guide leads you through a forest they are familiar with. This particular modality is the only co-creative partnership model: Teach me where you want to go and what you already know.

Psychotherapy and counseling ascribe to the more hierarchical model: I know what you need.

Grief is what happens within our bodies at the reaction to the various levels of sorrow. It’s the lump in our throats. Mourning is what we outwardly do with that.

Navigating a forest of grief is the journey towards learning how to mourn. I can be your guide, walking alongside you on this path of sorrow without leading the way. The grieving process should never be hurried. Sorrow is the counter-weight of love and therefore should be given the grace it deserves. To rest in the wound is to know it’s depth. In this way you honor the person who has died, and given yourself permission to authentically feel.

What is an End of Life Doula?

A Doula serves one individual/family at a time, providing non-medical, non-judgmental, holistic support and comfort for clients living with a terminal diagnosis, by companioning them emotionally, physically and spiritually, however that is uniquely defined by that person.

Long before the care of hospice becomes part of one’s support team, a Doula can begin an important relationship with someone unexpectedly facing their mortality. Later, they fill in the gaps left by chaplains, social workers, palliative-care teams and hospice services with so many other responsibilities.

An End-of-Life Doula can return a sense of the sacred to a process that has become more medicalized and less compassionate. Through meaning-directed life review and insight into the dying process, there can be a difference in how everyone involved experiences the final journey of life.

“That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet.”

- Emily Dickinson